remember to fail

about a month or so ago, i was on a call with one of my clients.

they were upset because they continuously met "failure" and even felt like one because of it.

(hi, life coach here, nice to meet you reader.)

obviously, i do not want any of my clients feeling this way. we have all been there, and we all know it absolutely sucks. like all of the work you put in was for nothing... but was it really for nothing?

at first i remember thinking that i had no idea what i was about to tell this client until i just blurted out, "just because you have fallen short on yourself, does not make you, overall, a failure..." however, we all know im a very straightforward person so then i went on to say this next blurb. "...yes, you may HAVE failed. but that does not make YOU a failure. people fail. we all fail. every single one of us have been there. hell, i played basketball in school and the only basket i made was for the other team. failure is nothing but simply redirection."

now, it's a key topic i have with all of my clients at least once throughout their breakthrough journey. click here to become a client.

this has been a topic that has been super heavy on my mind and heart this entire month. first, it was that call with my client. second, one of my friends got a knee injury and she hasnt been able to do what she loves doing because of it. thirdly, i got sick for the first time in a while and quite literally slept for four days straight. obviously none of these have to do with failure, but it does relate in a way. which is that we plan for things and then life has opposite plans, so therefore our plan fails.

i learned at the end of that basketball season that i definitely was not going to be the female version of michael jordan by any means, and the girl who went to basketball camps and would play with her brother during summer really hated that thought. but now, i feel way more fulfilled doing what i do now, than i think i would if i became a professional athlete, and that's just how it is for me (no hate on any professional athlete that may be reading this, im honestly jealous of you but good for you for having great hand eye coordination) that girl back then had no idea she was going to be doing the things she does now while she's in the middle of nowhere trying to make a name for herself. she's no millionaire or worldwide known individual by any means, but she does love what she is doing for her career and the path she chose because of something she once considered a failure.

we are so terrified of failure.

first comes failure and then suddenly everyone is laughing at us for failing which is the part we are actually all terrified of.

so first of all, please, stop giving a damn about what other people think and say about you.

second of all, i hope you fail. i hope you fail and you get back up again and again and again until all of those failures put you in the spot you were meant to be that provides you with fulfillment.

someone failing is better than someone not failing while neither of them makes progress; because behind the scenes, the one who failed made more progress than the one who didn't. read that again, i'd be confused right now too.

use those failures as a guide, not a reason to give up. roots grow downwards before the flower blooms. (i wish i could republish my book now after realizing that) click here to purchase my book!

now go fail at something.