Water Yourself

You cannot grow into the person you are meant to become if you are too busy watering other people's garden.

Read that again.

If you are too busy worrying about other peoples views of you, or too busy fixing their problems, or pouring all of your energy into them to help them feel better... what energy is there left to pour into yourself? At that point, let's be real, you are putting yourself on the back burner and overtime that energy will become half-assed because you have nothing to give in the first place.

Prioritize yourself. Eat your meals, drink your water, do your skincare, get in the gym.. whatever it may be to dial in on you - do it.

Here's the thing,

so many of us want to be respected, loved, cared for, complimented... etc.

But are you providing those to yourself? Are you really? Does not eating every day because you are sad, show that you respect yourself? Does not taking care of yourself because you're too busy helping other people show that you respect yourself? Does putting yourself down every day and pointing out your insecurities and flaws everyday show that you love yourself? If you cannot do something for yourself, then who are you to expect other people to do it for you?

That's hypocritical. If you don't love yourself, why can you expect others to do it? If you don't respect yourself, why do you expect others to do it? If you do not care for yourself, why, do you, expect, others, to do, it?

I'll tell you why,

and it's because you aren't self sufficient and haven't learned how to provide those things for yourself in the first place, and right now is where that stops.

Over the past couple weeks I have realized that I always tend to seek validation from others simply to feel like I'm doing the right thing - my friends, my family, my previous partners, etc. It is not their job to do that. It's nice to have them as a support system - yes, but that's the thing, it's a support system.. not just the system.

I started telling myself great job, I started telling myself that I am proud, I let go of the things that no longer served me and that I no longer served no matter how bad it hurt to close that chapter, but that's the thing with life, is sometimes you just simply need to learn the lesson and graduate the class.

So do that, water yourself, write out what you expect from other people, and go back through that same list and reflect on if you are providing those same things to yourself - chances are, the answer will be no, and if the answer is yes, surround yourself with different people.

Stop watering everyone else, and start watering yourself - and then sit back and let the growth begin.