finding your key to self love

what is something you're uncomfortable with?

here's my story.

in high school, I was the most independent dependent person you could've ever met & it was all because I lacked confidence & genuinely didn't believe in myself when it came down to accomplishing certain goals. However, if someone said I could do it, then I was immediately thinking, "damn, you're right." & then I simply got the task accomplished.

recently I booked a solo flight to cali & stayed there for a week, the sole purpose of this trip was to make myself uncomfortable & get comfortable with that thought. for my gym rats, are you gonna get any growth if you're doing the same reps & sets with the same weight? absolutely not. but if you fluctuate all of those variables & add weight, then you can easily expect growth though it may take time. the same goes for personal growth within your mind.

if you're constantly floating through life, being content with where you are, are you ever going to get anywhere? no. you're just comfortable & nothing makes life more boring than not having the willpower to reach new potential & keep reaching greater levels throughout your life & accomplishing things even your high school self never would've thought of.

personal goals seem to be broad term for such simple, or complex tasks. a few examples would be, focusing on discipline, getting a promotion, getting a new job, moving to a new town, or something most of us seem to be struggling the most with, self love.

when I think of self love, I think of someone who depends on nothing & finds happiness in everything. someone who is so self sufficient they are able to take everything day by day & focus on the task at hand & getting it done. many people seem to think loving yourself is a selfish trait to have, especially when you are just starting to learn how to do so. for example, you're constantly having to be there for yourself & you don't have the time to be there for others. but those people don't know that you can't give away something you don't have in the first place & that's what a lot of us need to come to terms with on both ends of the spectrum in my opinion.

from my experience, becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable is the first step to figure out how to love yourself, but maybe that's just because I was uncomfortable with being alone at one point. being alone opens so many doors & opportunities for you to discover the things that you value as well as the things that bring you happiness. self love is such a sensitive topic because it ranges so much from person to person, but when it comes down to it, its all about discovering what works best for you.. not all flowers require the same amount of water, soil, & sunlight... so remember that & while you're discovering what works for you, maintain the mindset to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

discovering yourself is about finding yourself throughout the course of a search, & that search is to find what makes you uncomfortable in order to unlock doors that open up a room to whatever it may be in order for you to find that love within yourself.

now its your turn, find your key & open that room that tells you how much water, soil, & sunlight you need in order for you to discover your own purpose & potential through self love.

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